I hope you take the time to read this and take my advice, everything will be ok
I found out I was pregnant after my missed period. Immediately abortion was me and my partners first thought. This is okay. Please don’t feel guilt. You are entitled to your own decisions as a woman. I am proud of you and there is a large support group here. No matter what you do, you are awesome!
When I found out I was pregnant it was an emotional wreck as it probably is for you finding out now. These feelings are completely normal and if you know you need to follow through with an abortion, just know I promise you it will get better. I advise you to deeply and thoroughly decide on what’s best for you because your decision will be final though.
My abortion was scheduled via phone at planned parenthood, everyone was very kind on the phone. I was prepared for the abortion but extremely nervous. It’s good to have at least one person you can talk to about it who is trusted, and possibly to even come with you. The support really helped me as my boyfriend came.
When I walked in to planned parenthood it was really nice to see other woman in there. It was genuinely a calming environment. I was surrounded by strong women and supportive and friendly staff. Although there was protestors outside, just a bunch of stupid old ladies who are uneducated and rudely conservative, but they had friendly volunteers who surrounded me and walked arm and arm with me into the building. They had a key to get in and the door closed behind me preventing unauthorized people in; therefor I felt very secure.
After checking in, They took me to a room and discussed the procedure which did make me feel nervous. I had no idea what to expect and the way she was describing the procedure was nerve wracking. I wish I could have relaxed more and been less nervous because that definitely would’ve helped.
My nurse was discussing my medical history and such with me and she was a younger lady who was very cool, lightening the mood and I could tell she was observing me to see exactly what she could do to say and help.. almost like she was reading my vibe. She told me she had been in my spot and we talked about interests like tattoos and stuff She gave me a lollipop ( haha). Just overall made me feel so good.
She walked me to the ultrasound room where there was the nicest and coolest lady I have met who laid me down and chatted with me while checking out the fetus. This was the most real part but luckily it is very short. Then they take you to another waiting room and finally you are called in for your procedure.
When I walked in there was the doctor who was a young lady who was also very friendly and an older black lady. They both asked me if I want to talk or stay silent; asked if I wanted water, and if I wanted to know when different sensations occurred. I think this helped my experience very very much. I was very emotional the whole time and the pain was pretty minimal, it was mostly just nerves.
The ultrasound tech came back in and one was holding my hand and the other was rubbing my hair. I will never forget how these ladies made me feel. They were extraordinary! I promise these people will make you feel good. They talked to me and completely distracted me from what is happening. All I can say is if you know you need to do this, there’s no sense in psyching you out! It is a short procedure filled with loving, caring and supportive people..
With that said, as soon as the procedure was over I immediately felt better- such relief, and my body felt better. No more tender breast’s, etc. the next few days I continued to feel better and better. I did bleed like a heavy period for a week and suffer from some cramps. My procedure was 2 weeks ago and I feel completely normal. I still reminisce a bit, but overall was such a prositive experience.
I love you!
Submitted by: Elizabeth
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Just reading what you wrote has put a little more at ease with the decision I’m trying to make right now. You’re amazing…thank you so much.