It’s Your Choice

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Submitted by: Judy Mills

I just found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant, and scheduled for a surgical abortion this Wednesday.

In a panic I told my mom who highly disagreed. I’m 29 and she’s ready to be a grandmother but I’m not ready to be a mother. This was the first time in my life that I felt so much guilt it was unbearable but the thought of bringing a child into this word and not being able to give it the quality of life it deserves, feels worse.

I would suggest to anyone who is going through the process to only tell people who are supportive of you no matter what your decision is. I felt judged and like I had to defend a decision that I was making for my wellbeing.

You have to stand strong and understand that no matter what people say or promise, this pregnancy is your responsibility and you have to do what’s best for you. People will push their thoughts on you without even knowing how ignorant and insensitive they sound. Don’t feel discouraged or sad for making a decision that family members or friends don’t agree with. You have so much support from other women who do understand. I feel so fortunate that women around the world are talking about it.

You deserve nonjudgmental
after-abortion support.

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One response to “It’s Your Choice”

  1. Vivian

    Thank you for sharing this. I am also 29, just found out I’m 5 weeks and I have to wait until next Thursday for the medical procedure. I told my mom too….who also was not supportive or understanding and also told her friend whom decided to weigh in and text me. I know this is the right choice for my life right now….I don’t feel ready for motherhood and I have just started my career. I have so many mixed emotions and your story gave me hope.

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