We find out I was pregnant already 6 weeks in. It was the last thing my boyfriend and I ever expected. In the past it was easy to know when Plan B was needed, this time was different.
We enjoy having drinks often and I had been drinking nearly every weekend leading up to finding out I was pregnant. The day I found out I drank tequila to ease the worry. My boyfriend and I both agreed, life is hard enough without developmental disabilities and having a baby with a high potential for FAS felt unfair for our unborn.
Both of us are pro choice, but always believed our choice would be to keep. We also thought we’d be in a different situation when we both saw “yes” on the pregnancy test. All life is precious and valid, but everyone deserves the best chance they can have from day one.
It feels selfish because so many advocate for the lives of those with disabilities, but that is a choice each of us get to make. Had it been planned, I would not have been drinking, which feels like the very least I as a woman can do to be sure the child I bring to this earth has the best chance of an incredible life.
I know when the time presents itself again I’ll have so much more love to give because of this experience. I already have less desire to drink alcohol.
I want you to know that if you decided to terminate because of a possible chance of your unborn having a disability, you’re not alone and you’re not selfish. You made the best decision for you and the being that now doesn’t have to struggle, because life is hard enough.
Submitted by: A