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  • Mixed Emotions

    It was shocking to me, when I saw those two lines in late October. I saw the test in a bag in my closet, knowing that I actually was not supposed to start my period until the next day. But I took it just for fun really. Not expecting anything. But I saw those two lines about a half an hour before 6. At first I did not believe it. I only took it because I was bored and did have anything else to do.

    Earlier that morning, my boyfriend and I were in the car and he mentioned something about a proposition, and it would not fund the local planned parenthood. Which he agreed with, as a... Read more

  • A complicated and difficult decision

    In September of 2014, I had an abortion. My husband and I had been separated for two months. During those months I was evolved with someone who beat me, degraded me, held me down, and raped me. More then once. I had no where to go. My husband didn't want me. My mother hated me. My father had other children. (Of younger ages) to take care of.

    Early September I knew I was pregnant. Right away. I just knew. I was scared. I reached out to my husband. And luckily he was there. He came and got me. Protected me. Made sure I got out safely. We went home and talked. He asked about the... Read more

  • I'm still allowed to grieve...

    I was 38 and my husband of 15 years and I had been trying to conceive for about two years and I was getting frustrated. We hadn't had a healthy relationship. I knew having a kid wouldn't solve our problems, but I had also deluded myself into thinking that our problems weren't really that bad.

    I found out I was pregnant three days after my husband assaulted me for the first time. I was about to get on a plane to see my best friend for the last time; she was dying of cancer in California. I was in Western Australia, staying at the house of a co-worker since the night I... Read more

  • I just want to go back in time.

    I was 11 weeks 2 days pregnant. Here's my story:

    I found out I was pregnant right at 4 weeks when my period was only a day late. I had been taking a pregnancy test just to put my mind at ease, and it was always negative. I figured this time wouldn't be any different.

    When I saw the plus sign I assumed it was a mistake, that it was a flawed test. There was no way this could happen to me. I lived in denial for a week or so until I took 2 more that also said pregnant. I felt like the world was ending. My first thought was to get an abortion, it seemed like a no-brainer... Read more

  • Paper Airplanes

    I never thought going through an experience like this would be so painful. I never thought I'd be so emotionally invested and devastated, but I knew that whichever path I took: child or abortion, there would be something lost in each reality.

    It's a lose-lose depending on how you look at it. I got pregnant too early -- in the wrong time and place. I had to look down the futures of each path and choose which outcome I wanted to experience. I chose abortion. It’s not what I wanted to do. But I felt like I had to.

    I got pregnant at 20 years old. My boyfriend and I had... Read more

  • My Experience

    I had my abortion less than a month ago now. I'm 30 years old, divorced, and have a boyfriend but 3 days before I found out I was pregnant I sort of broke it off with him. He is a great guy and unbelievably sweet and good to me but just not my guy. He did not want the break up and was very persistent about staying in touch with me and telling me how he knows we can work it out, etc.
    Because of this, I did not tell him when I found out I was or my decision, etc. see when I was married we tried for a little and nothing happened. Then I stayed off birth control and for 5 years I... Read more

  • One year ago

    It's been one year since I had my abortion. I was so conflicted when I found out I was pregnant. My (now ex) boyfriend and I were going through really tough times. I had just quit a good paying job because I was unhappy and he was very angry with me about it. Then I find out I'm pregnant and I was just totally distraught. I was so afraid my boyfriend was going to break up with me and I didn't want my baby to have to grow up without a loving family. I never really got any sort of support from him in making the decision. He was so dismissive about the whole thing and never... Read more

  • Feeling relieved, but uneasy

    This past Saturday I found out I was pregnant, I am 23 years old and from a small town in Ohio. I took about six pregnancy tests- I couldn't believe what was coming up on the screen. So much that I actually went to the hospital to reaffirm the at home tests. So I was, in fact, pregnant. I made an appointment at one if the clinics about an hour away from my hometown- it was not planned parenthood.

    The first visit was just the consultation- you get blood work, pee test, and an ultra sound to confirm how far along you are. I was barely 4 weeks. You talk with a patient advocate... Read more

  • Respect, always. Never judge. On love, loss and humanity…

    I fell pregnant in my final year of university. I had an abortion. There's an overriding logic there that maintains to this day, but the reality of the situation was much messier.

    I'd worked hard, somewhat against the odds, to get to university and I was working towards a better life than the one I'd experienced as a child. My boyfriend was a couple of years younger and we'd only just got together. We liked each other but there was no future. I feared raising a child alone in social housing (or, worse, with my parents) with no job and no prospects.

    I had... Read more

  • It still hurts

    I too had an abortion. May 2014. 11 weeks pregnant to my bf of 4 years. I was 23. He wanted to keep it but supported my decision. I had a surgical and very painful abortion. I also had an IUD placed.
    At the time I knew it was the best decision, I had planned on breaking up with bf just after a planned vacation, when on said vacation I found out. It was the hardest choice to make. Almost two months later we broke. I couldn't look at him with out my heart tearing itself apart. I felt so guilty. At trhis point my periods were getting back to normal and due to the IUD were now... Read more



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