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Pregnant Virgin Who Got an Abortion

March 23, 2013 By Exhale 32 Comments

Anonymous Submission

Pregnant Virgin (by Dictionary.com’s Definition) Who Got an Abortion

I just wanted to share my story.

Long story short, I got pregnant without sexual intercourse then got a medical abortion.

For as long as I can remember, I have had difficulty getting anything into my vagina. Every time anyone applied any sort of pressure to the outside, it would cause a lot of pain, and for this reason, I am a “virgin.”

And yet, I got pregnant because he deposited outside the vagina. I think that somehow I thought the hymen was supposed to act as a barrier. or that the fact that nothing can go in means that nothing, including sperm, can go in. There was a strong wall outside my vagina that never let anything enter, and would hurt to push at all. I guess I have been hearing too many stories of people struggling to conceive. I guess it didn’t occur to me that people could in fact get pregnant this way.

I guess the hardest parts weren’t the abortion itself. but that people in the clinics would judge me for not using protection when it was simply just a misunderstanding on my part. I didn’t know you needed a condom or something when the penis was totally outside like that. Some people in the clinic would not believe me for never having had intercourse and ask me if I were lying or hiding information…. It was hard because even people in the medical profession were confused about my situation. Most had never seen anything like it before, and the one that had had only seen it a long long time ago.

However, I think it is more common than people make it out to be… and I just want people to know that if they are in the same situation, they are definitely not alone.

Anyway, so I got a medical abortion–the abortion pill or whatever you want to call it. This wasn’t so bad to me. I think the thing I feared most was the possibility of having to do a surgical abortion if it failed.

Before and after the medical abortion, they are supposed to do a transvaginal ultrasound. I was unable to do one because of the great amounts of pain. I am pretty sure I have severe vaginismus (the fourth or fifth class if you look on wikipedia) making it impossible for anything to enter. It just basically caused a lot of complications, and it was frustrating. because people couldn’t just go along with the typical procedures. The way I was just caused so many delays and complications because the people in the clinic kept having to make phone calls to other people in other clinics to ask what to do since they couldn’t do the usual.

Instead of doing the transvaginal ultrasound, they did an abdominal ultrasound to see how developed it was to confirm I could take the pill.

For the followup, they are doing a series of blood tests. I have yet to learn the results.

But in the end, everything turned out okay. I just felt alone and different and defective.

but I guess there’s nothing too bad about everything. The pain is treatable, and I apparently have no infertility problems. That is something to be happy about!

I just want everyone to be more aware of this! that you can get pregnant without any sort of penetration ever.

And that if you also experience the same pain as I do, be careful for that does not mean you cannot get pregnant.

Filed Under: After-Abortion Stories

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Comments

  1. Lilian says

    October 2, 2020 at 12:40 pm

    I’m going through d same phase right now. dere was no penetrative sex but my period is late though too early to take pregnancy test but I hv been having some kind of pregnancy symptoms I think am really going crazy right now I’m not ready for all dis

    Reply
  2. Taiye says

    May 2, 2020 at 2:23 pm

    It happened to me also… I thought I was going crazy…

    Reply
    • Black says

      August 27, 2020 at 3:21 am

      It happened to me also

      Reply
    • Tariro says

      September 19, 2020 at 4:08 am

      I’m in that situation right now n l don’t know what to do

      Reply
    • Blessing Awotu says

      April 9, 2021 at 5:57 am

      It happened to me too

      Reply
      • Dami says

        October 31, 2021 at 11:53 am

        What did you do…cos I’m having same issue… I’m still in shock

        Reply
    • Happiness Jack says

      February 19, 2022 at 6:22 am

      I have a simpler issue I don’t know what to do

      Reply
  3. Flikky says

    February 3, 2020 at 9:07 am

    The same thing also happened to me and I use many pills but the abortion is not successful so I’m 16 weeks pregnant and the person responsible denied it cos he has never had sex with me before and even when I told his parent that I’m still a virgin nobody believe me

    Reply
  4. Faffy says

    January 29, 2020 at 6:16 pm

    I’m so relieved about this …. the nurses didn’t believe me when i told them about it …but my question is am i still a virgin

    Reply
  5. juliana says

    December 22, 2019 at 6:09 am

    Am going through the same thing but I just missed my period today. Though I haven’t gone for a test. But i’m planning to take the pill without the test and
    I don’t know if it will be harmful.

    Reply
    • Gina says

      July 7, 2020 at 3:19 pm

      Same thing happened to me..I never believed it,even the person I had the foreplay never accepted it,wat are my saying the doctor himself called me a liar until I went for scan which detected that I was intact.

      Reply
  6. Seifu says

    October 25, 2019 at 4:39 pm

    My sister is in this situation now. And it is about 21 weeks after the first day of the last menstruation. So what shall I do sister?
    Please help me!

    Reply
  7. MARION says

    August 19, 2019 at 3:38 am

    i think am in that situation

    Reply
  8. Ella says

    July 10, 2019 at 9:51 am

    In same situation now and have tried the abortion pill but no flow for 4days now and am 7 weeks pregnant according to the test please help me out

    Reply
    • Nafisat says

      July 11, 2019 at 5:13 pm

      I’m in the same situation. Was the abortion successful??

      Reply
  9. Helen says

    June 24, 2019 at 4:28 pm

    I think I’m pregnant. I can’t tell my parents. What can I do

    Reply
  10. ola says

    June 23, 2019 at 8:35 pm

    am in the same shoe
    am 27 still a virgin but pregnant
    can someone help me please

    Reply
  11. Light says

    June 17, 2019 at 9:36 pm

    My sister is in this right now what do we do?

    Reply
  12. Moyo says

    May 31, 2019 at 7:44 am

    I want to confirm this before lecturing someone who has been in this shoes. A very close friend of mine, she got rid of it after two months by taking pills and is scared of if she is no longer a virgin or she is.. Please can this person still be considered a virgin? She feels okay now but, never stops to think of the virgin thing..

    Reply
    • Clarence says

      July 15, 2020 at 9:07 am

      please help am waiting for the same answer

      Reply
    • Prince says

      May 24, 2021 at 10:23 pm

      Exactly my question

      Reply
  13. Adepeju says

    May 12, 2019 at 6:43 am

    Am passing same issues too.. I have take abortion pills like mifepristone and misoprostol, i took the drugs at Wednesday 7:48pm. am still bleeding up still now..please I need ur help…

    Reply
  14. Lin says

    March 6, 2019 at 6:01 pm

    This is very true and when u tell someone responsible for the pregnancy they cant believe u

    Reply
  15. Sandra says

    October 9, 2018 at 2:58 pm

    Please I need help I’m going through this right now

    Reply
    • Exhale says

      October 9, 2018 at 10:26 pm

      Please call our talkine if you need a someone to talk to: 866-4-EXHALE
      All calls are completely confidential and counselors offer support and respect without judgment.

      Talkline Hours:
      Monday 5 p.m. – 9 p.m. pst
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      https://exhaleprovoice.org/after-abortion-talkline/

      Reply
      • Ifeoma says

        April 10, 2019 at 9:33 am

        Am going through same issue now and I need help

        Reply
      • Yemi says

        February 26, 2020 at 9:24 am

        I was in the same situation last year February. I did the surgical type but still it affects me emotionally. I need help

        Reply
        • DE says

          August 9, 2021 at 3:49 am

          Were you able to overcome the emotional huddles? If so, please help me with tips, I am tired of crying.

          Reply
    • Jessica Khwela says

      January 30, 2019 at 9:43 pm

      I think going through the same problem…I. Receiving pregnancy symptoms.. Please help me.

      Reply
      • Anonymous says

        March 19, 2020 at 7:40 pm

        I recently went through this
        I’m hurting mostly because my virginity meant a lot to me and now no one believes me when I say Ive never had sex because it’s hard to explain ,

        Reply
        • Bright says

          January 24, 2023 at 1:05 pm

          I am in the same situation right now could you guide me since I think I can take medical abortion

          Reply
    • Ifunanya says

      September 7, 2020 at 3:30 am

      I Was in same situation, i did the surgical one, but just want to know if am still a virgin after the surgical termination

      Reply

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